Do things that feed your soul, not your ego, and you will more than happy?
We all have egos, right? However do you understand what your ego is messing up? It could be sabotaging your relationships, or that promotion you always desired.
Having a big ego can be tough to admit, since the majority of us associate having a BIG ego by being, well, rude. The thing is we all have an ego – but when we balance ego to soul, we discover a better, less competitive, more tranquil, more caring method of life.
How big is your ego?
- Time for a sincerity check … Let’s see if you have a BIG ego.
- Do you put individuals down in order to feel powerful?
- Do you believe you are better than everybody else?
- Do you use your positional power to get things done?
- And, are you constantly vital of others work or accomplishments?
If you responded to ‘yes’ to all of those questions, then the answer is ‘yes’ you have a very BIG ego. However, because YOU are the service to all of your issues, due to the fact that you put them there in the first place, YOU can do something about this.
Ego is typically a mask for an absence of self-love. It’s a type of defensive mechanism. When we begin to accept ourselves as the glorious messes, startling geniuses, caring creators and ‘operate in progress’ that all of us are, and I imply truly accepting ourselves (warts and all) we can begin to let go of the ‘ego’.
Caring yourself isn’t vanity, it is sanity…
Self-love is a fickle thing – it can come and go, but if you deal with it, and even embrace those times when you stuff up, you can master self-love. Be your buddy, your confidant, hang out with yourself – find out to comprehend what makes you ‘tick’ and comprehend that you are perfectly, uniquely you. A powerful human being geared up for life and everything it tosses at you! When you begin to like yourself, you can start to like yourself, and believe in yourself.
In all honesty, if I was to ask you to rate yourself out of ten, how much do you love yourself, what would it be? And why?
Self-love is not self-centered, self-love is knowing yourself and liking yourself anyhow, and the truly essential aspect of that, is all of those satisfying relationships that you want – with your mother, your sibling, your partner, your kids … they will continue to allude you up until you can like yourself. To fall in love with yourself is the first finest concealed to joy … and yet most of us still keep looking for love in other places – external to ourselves, in the form of approval, compliments, accomplishments and recognition, and all this does is feed the ego. It not does anything to satisfy our soul.
Self-love is the best medicine…
And here’s why. Because your ego holds you back from the things you really wish to say, the things that your heart is busting at the seams to sing, like, “I enjoy you” “I miss you” or “I am sorry”. Ego gets in the way of you putting your emotions on display. Since you’re frightened of rejection or dissatisfaction. When you genuinely like yourself and feel content with who you are, you know, intuitively, that to enjoy … does not need love in return, and you are perfectly wonderful the way you are, with or without the acceptance of others.
It’s hard to understand this, up until you actually begin to live it. But once you do, you’ll find pleasure and enjoy places you didn’t understand it existed. You’ll be bursting with self-confidence and self-assuredness that are soul-fed and not driven by ego.
How to diminish the ego…
If you discover it a little hard to connect with self-love there are things you can do to help lessen the ego. The first is to be ‘modest’ – which advises me of a quote an instructor when taught me – ‘the meek shall rule the earth’.
It takes little actions … for instance, instead of thinking about yourself all the time, why not be of service to others, totally let go of your needs and wants, rather, be a beacon of light for others. Another truly cool way to detox your ego is to enter into everything with a ‘knowing’ state of mind, enter into all interactions that you are going to learn something, really various from thinking that you know all of it … You’ll also benefit from opening the learning receptors of your precious brain.
How about, ‘seek to understand’. You can only do this by listening with your ears, eyes and heart. Ask more concerns, so you can gain from others … Not only will you unquestionably discover something brand-new, it will make others feel valued, heard and comprehended. Gratitude and encouragement go a long way for loving thy self. But people can likewise determine the difference between ‘authenticity’ and not. When you’re really opening up to another person, they can feel the energy as favorable.